Soalan Pelik…

Kenapa agaknya students suka tanya soalan yang pelik-pelik. Masa aku praktikal dulu, ada yang tanya, warna apa yang aku suka. Kemudian, bila aku jawab, ada yang bersorak. Sebabnya, warna kegemaran aku sama dengan warna kegemaran dia juga. Pelik.
Tapi yang lagi pelik, ada yang tanya aku, dalam banyak-banyak barang dalam bilik aku, yang mana satu yang paling aku sayang. Oppsss… ini tidak luch ya. Jawapannya, semua benda aku sayang sebab kebanyakkan benda itu aku beli sendiri. Setiap satu barang yang aku beli ada sentimental value nya. Waima sebatang marker sekalipun…
Nota kaki: Biar soalan pelik, jangan soalan bodoh. Because stupid question deserve stupid answer. Hahahaha….

Tiga Musim Ramadhan

(rudy bluehikari kata, boleh tiru stlye penulisan dia, so, aku nak try ni)

Alif- Ramadhan 2006
Cabaran yang paling besar adalah untuk berlatih teater pada bulan ini. Pementasan akhir jua di lakukan dalam bulan Ramadhan. Pelik? Iya, seolah kami tak menghormati bulan suci ini. Tapi apakan daya, kekangan masa menuntut pengorbanan. Tapi yang bagusnya, inilah masa aku mula berlatih vokal (bercakap dengan kuat, menggunakan suara dari perut). Gembiranya rasa bila pementasan teater berakhir. Tapi aku juga merindukan berada di bawah limelight. Akahs! Gila glamour kejap.
Ramadhan yang sama aku perlu hadir kelas bola baling. Malam, selepas solat maghrib, saban minggu hari khamis, aku bertandang ke gelanggang. Penat memang tak di nafikan. Sehari sebelum 1 Ramadhan, kami menganjurkan match handball.
Hujung Ramadhan, aku memperoleh berat badan yang luar biasa. Kurus habis-habisan. Tapi lepas tu cepat je naik baik. Cessss!

Ba- Ramadhan 2007
Saban minggu aku pulang ke daerah S. Kesihatan mak dan ayah semakin merosot. Hinggakan untuk berpuasa pun tidak mampu. Ramadhan 2007 mengundang air mata yang tiada hentinya. Rejab dan Sya’aban yang berkunjung sebelumnya aku pergunakan secukupnya untuk berpuasa sunat. Hasilnya, berat badan ku turun lagi. Tapi kali ini, ia tidak naik semula, walaupun selepas Syawal. Mungkin jiwaku terganggu.

Tha- Ramadhan 2008
1 Ramadhan aku sambut dengan mengecat dapur rumah. Tiba-tiba dapur rumah ku ada feature wall! Ramadhan masih sama, tapi ada kurangnya. Mak tiada lagi di sisi. Mungkin Ramadhan tahun ini juga akan menguras banyak air mata. Ramadhan ini juga mungkin menyaksikan Ramadhan terakhir along ku berstatus solo. Aku? Usah di tanya. Masih belum berjumpa Chen-Chung mahupun Ziryad Zaim dalam hidup ku.

Kesimpulan: Ramadhan sememangnya bulan rahmat. Memang sesuai untuk mengurangkan berat badan. Tapi jangan tiru style pemakanan aku. Takut nanti ada yang pengsan separuh hari. Selamat menyambut bulan Ramadhan!

Focus Me

Gambar ini di ambil masa sukan sekolah SMK Semenchu. Token for Cikgu Esham, aku tau dia suka ambil gambar aku. Aku juga tau, aku tak fotogenik. Tapi yang bagusnya, aku tak fotogedik. Ahaks! (pada siapa aku tujukan ia? jauh nun di Sabah)

Stages of a Relationship (Part 2- Falling Apart)

Stage One: Differentiating
The interdependence of their courting stage is no longer so attractive. Now they are beginning to focus on how different they are, and much of their conversation is about their differences rather than similarities. To some extent, the differentiating stage is a healthy phase that most couples experience.
The differentiating stage can be worked out if the differences are not too great. The differences the two recognized and tolerated become focal points for discussion and argument. The most visible sign of differentiating is conflict. But differentiating can take place without conflict.

Stage Two: Circumscribing
At this stage, less and less information is exchanged. For them, it is better to stay away from mentioning them in order to avoid a full scale fight. Conversation is superficial. The number of interactions is decrease, the depth of discussions is reduced, and the duration of each conversation is shortened. Because communication is constricted, the relationship is constricted. Persons who are in this stage often cover up their relationship problems.

Stage Three: Stagnating
The stagnating stage is a time of inactivity. The relationship has no chance to grow, and when the partners communicate, they talk like strangers. The subject of the relationship itself is now off limits. How long this stage lasts depends on many things. Most couples whose relationship reaches this stage feel a lot of pain. They may find it hard to separate and may hold on to the hope that they can still work things out.

Stage Four: Avoiding
The avoiding stage involves physical separation. The parties avoid face-to-face interaction. They are not interested in spending time together. This stage is usually characterized by unfriendliness, hostility and antagonism.

Stage Five: Terminating
The participants find a way to bring their relationship to an end. Both parties are preparing themselves for life without the other. Differences are emphasized, and communication is difficult and awkward.
Knapp, in “The Rhetoric of Goodbye” state three distinct types of statements that commonly occur in terminating relationship.
First; there are the summary statements. “Well, we certainly have tried to make a go of it”
Secondly; statements that signal the likelihood of decreased access. “It might be better if we didn’t see each other quite so often”.
Finally; there are messages that predict what the future relationship (if any) will be like. “I don’t ever want to see you again”.

So, that’s it. Think about your relationship again. As for me, I’m at integrating stage, with my best friend, of course (hey, we’ve known each other for eight years!). We can predict our emotion. And sometimes, my best friend can sense that I’m in trouble and need support. So, he will be with me (on the phone!) and help to go through those difficult times.

At which stage you are?

Stages of a Relationship (Part 1- Coming Together)

This is sort of a summary from a note that I found among my thousand notes during Foundation Years. It is from a writer and researcher on relationship, mark L. Knapp. According to him, there are two parts of stages of a relationship, which are coming together and falling apart.
Check out at which stage you are at now!

Stage One: Initiating
People start their relationship at this stage. They probably assessed each other in various stages- such as clothes, physical attractiveness, and beliefs and attitude. From all these observations each begun to make judgment about the other.

Stage Two: Experimenting
In this stage, people make a conscious effort to seek out common interest and experiences. They experiment by expressing their ideas, attitudes and values and by seeing how the other person reacts.
Example: They talk about their families and their friends.

Stage Three: Intensifying
They enjoy each other’s company and start to self- disclose. They also call each other by nicknames, developed ‘shorthand’ way of speaking, jokes that no other can understand, reveal shared assumptions and expectations. Trust becomes important and they start to make expressions of commitment. At this stage, openness has its risk.

Stage Four: Integrating
The point where their individual personalities are beginning to merge. People expect to see them together. They do most things together. Their friends assume that if they invite one, they should invite the other. Each of them is able to predict and explain the behavior of the other.
The integrating stage is reached only when people develop deep and important relationships. Those who reach this stage are usually best friends, couples or parents and children.

Stage Five: Bonding
The last coming-together stage of a relationship. The participants make some sort of formal commitment that announces their relationship to those around them. For example, engagement or marriage. It is a step that is taken when the participants have some sort of long-term commitment to their relationship.